The 2 Great Loves

i have been re-watching Sex and The City recently and I just saw the 1st episode on Season 5 titled "Anchors Away". In it, Charlotte mentions about these "2 great loves" that everyone gets in their lifetime. Meaning that everyone has only 2 great loves in their lives and they either end up with either one of them.. or nothing at all. like if you've missed the boat, then it's gone forever. and in carrie's case, her 2 great loves are obviously Big and Aidan. (and till this day, i dunno why she dumped Aidan!)

that set me thinking for a while. who are my 2 great loves? and how do i kno who are my 2 great loves? other than my hubby now, i nv stayed in another r'ship long enough to kno if he had been the one great love in my life.

so that is to say - effectively, i only have one great love, as of now.

*gasp* the other great love hasn't appeared, yet?

that is a disturbing thot and i certainly wud not entertain it if it ever comes my way.

most of my frens would have me believe that my other great love wud be J. but some part of me is not convinced.. if he had been one of my great loves.. then shudn't we have done more than wat we had? with him, it is alwaes a sense of regret, a sense of what-if and a sense of i've-not-done-enuff. :( how cud that be equal to great love when we both know we haven't tried at all, if not enuff?

comparatively, my r'ship with my hubby is nothing if not a great love. the storms we've weathered for the past 6 years would be nothing if we are not married today.. it would all have been for nothing. but it is not.. cuz we have worked out our differences/put them aside in order to make us work.. IT IS A GREAT LOVE simply cuz we put each other before the other. i cannot begin to say how much i appreciate wat he's done for me all these years.

so perhaps not everyone has 2 great loves in their lives.. in my case, one great ongoing love is better 2 failed great loves in a lifetime.

I believe in LOVE, do you?